More importantly, work out WHY you and your partner are not getting on as well as you used to.
Be honest with yourselves! Discuss what has changed about the two of you and see if you think it's worth working to put it right.
If you already have kids, forget it! You simply have a D*U*T*Y to stay together until they can stand on their own two feet: no ifs, no buts whatsoever!!!!!!
I'm lucky, I am happily married for 31 years and it's been easy for me: not so easy for my wife..... but, I can tell you.... after the 'fire' has stopped raging, a simply FABULOUS 'partnership' develops..... no matter HOW annoying she is! And they CAN be annoying........!
Finally, one simple, UTTERLY INVIOLABLE RULE applies.... there are Z*E*R*O exceptions to this..... if you DO have an affair..... there are NO CIRCUMSTANCES where your relationship with your 'missus' will be improved if you TELL her about it!!!!!
Believe it or not, a study was done on this: from the hundreds of cases studied, there was not a SINGLE EXAMPLE of where the relationship improved AFTER telling the 'missus'!
Understand this fully: there WILL be a desire (later) to 'tell' her.... BUT that is caused by you (errr..... us) trying to remove some of the guilt you/we fee about having an affair: we feel guilty about keeping a secret...... However, if you want your relationship to survive, UNDER *N*O* CIRCUMSTANCES ARE YOU E*V*E*R TO TELL HER..... no matter WHAT the pressure!
Make that error..... and it's OVER!
Good luck! Welcome to the human race, the human condition..... and.... to getting older!
Ian
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