If you've not married, then, no matter what people may pretend, you have NOT felt fully 'committed' to each other, yet! That's what 'getting married' actuially IS ...... or should be!!!!
If both of you don't feel 'committed', then.....
However, if you DO feel 'committed' strongly enough to last you for the rest of your life and you are happy to SAY so.... now is the time to ask yourself the proper question...... 'do I love this woman ENOUGH to get married, permanently'.
If either one of your does NOT feel that committed..... then perhaps it IS time to see that other woman.... If not, you are just 'marking time' in this relationship and that's NOT good!
No matter how stupidly many people treat marriage.... it's there and it WORKS for a REASON! Because it's 'there' it shows there *I*S* a difference between being maried and just living together. Others will deny this.... they are WRONG! Look at it simply: why NOT get married if you intend to remain together FOREVER? If you DON'T intedn to remain together for life..... live together until you DO decide to marry or spilt. Just don't 'pretend' that it's the SAME as marriage!
I loved those who claimed (quotation:) 'we don't need no paper from the city hall....'..... and who promptly sued for 'alimony' when things split up!
Marriage WORKS for those who take it seriously!!
Yes:... I am OLD and YES:... I AM right wing! But I am also a VERY happily married man!
Ian
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